I do complain, I’d be selfish to pretend otherwise. I complain about school, homework, friends, society, colleagues, and so on. Everybody does that, let’s be honest. I mean, a study shows that people who are oversharing what’s on their minds more often are less vulnerable to mental diseases such as depression or anxiety. Therefore, it’s not a bad habit, while it does not cross the boundaries of good breeding. From that point onwards, it becomes annoying.
I have no problem with people who complain excessively since I’m the type of person who is always keen on helpingher friends whenever they need something, whether they are right or wrong. Therefore I understand that people are different and that they may find certain issues or just come across concerning subjects that I may never fully comprehend from their perspective.
Ok, but changing the subject now my article does not have as its main topic “Why do people complain all the time”, but “Why do people complain but when there is something to be done, they wouldn’t act”.
For example, let’s say you and your friend have a seriousproblem with another person, like a bully, no matter their age, he or she could be either younger or older than you two. This person annoys both you and your friend, being such a thorn in your back that you end up spending hours, days, weeks, or maybe months with your buddie, telling each other: “Oh, I just can’t stand this person, he is just so annoying and ruins my mood all the time.” Therefore, one random day, you decided by yourself that you had had enough of this bully and made the obvious decision of standing up to him or her, but when you tell your friend about it, you receive this humiliating answer: “Oh…I don’t know…I just don’t want to end up in a worse position than I already am.”
Why is that? Why does everybody just turn their back on you almost all the time you need them the most, why does no one want to take action and escape their unpleasant situation, no matter where it is? Why does a warrior suddenly turn into a chicken? Why do we pay lipservice to certain issues but fail to take measures?
Well, for these questions, there are so many variants: people just lack enough courage, they are either not interested or have other personal interests in the game, etc. But, my opinion is that people complain but don’t do a thing to get out of their unfavorable state, because they are too lazy to do it. When you first read this answer, you are most likely to think, “Why would people be lazy in situations like this, when the main benefit is their personal interest? It just sounds foolish, too weird to be true.” It is indeed, but let’s just ingest this idea for a few seconds.
No one, and I mean actually no one, wants to get out of their comfort zone. But what’s a comfort zone? Is it a place where you are definitely sure that you are safe and untouchable? Yes, but it’s also something you get used to and learn to tolerate. If you face a certain problem every day of the week, of the month, even though in the beginning you just can’t stand it, involuntarily, you get used to it. You get used to the bad words, the daily bullying, and even to the person. If you think about it, it does have logic, I mean, this explains why communism and other totalitarian regimes had such a long lifespan, and still have till this day, North Korea being the greatest example. People just happen to have, at the very back of their minds, the thought that there may be worse repercussions tocomplicate the situation even more than it already is. But as you already might have guessed, that’s not how a society evolves, words have no meaning, no power when you don’t truly believe in them, trust them with all your heart and act.
There is no reason to be afraid to speak your mind and do something to improve your life because nothing bad can happen to you. Moreover, ignore the cocky ones who onlycomplain again and again. These are usually the cowardly ones, who are by your side all the time until things start to get complicated. As Freddie Mercury said, in Queen’s latest published song, “In the end, you have to face it all alone”. Therefore, you should never fall for this trap, people are, in general, very different from what they first seem to be. Appearances are indeed deceiving.
I’d like to end with one of the famous quotes of the unforgettable British actress, Maggie Smith, who tragically passed away merely a few days before writing this article, who said: Speak your mind, even if your voice shakes.
Turcin Branka XA
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